Women and the times

A Bengaluru girl whose Facebook page and matrimonial advertisement went viral when rebelled her parents who had put her onto the marriage market. 80 percent of women go thorough this parade where parents put them through an embarrassing parade where there being fair (the biggest advantage), homely, obedient are the biggest virtues, oh and before I forget the she is always convent educated, soft spoken and is a great cook and the cherry on the cake she is of an adjusting nature.

 In short, she is a cow.

The young software engineer rebelled against this and set up a webpage and also made a matrimonial CV that was anything but the usual. She wanted someone who would accept her for being small, dorky with glasses and someone who was definitely not marriage material. She wants someone who wouldn’t ask her to grow her hair!

Why do we as a society expect so much in totality from the girls? Are we marrying our sons to life partners and companions who love them for what they are, faults and warts and all or do we want glorified, showpieces who fit the bill of statuesque women, tall, fair, beautiful, well versed in making a home. It is the mindset of the society that puts subtle, but such fierce pressure on the women to perform.

However, the younger generation is changing, her webpage has had 2, 30,000 hits on her page and also dozens of marriage proposals plus a few from non-Indians who wonder if they are eligible.

As, a society now we are going through a time that is rapidly changing but we are not evolving the way our masters wanted us to, in this rapid growth we want girls to be educated, to hold professional jobs, to augment the total income but we want to oppress them and want to be homemakers, pushed to the hilt. Why is that we want them to fit the mold? The mindset is such that boys are corrupted and as the rapist in the infamous Nirbahaya case says, Girls who are decent do not roam at night. The girl was asking for it as she resisted.

This mindset is the reflection of the men who have been conditioned by their parents to believe they are superior, just because of their sex and have a right to be right.

An oxymoron of a society that preaches itself hoarse to save the girl, educate the girl, to teach a girl is to teach a society, to save the true wealth of a society.

Aren’t these mere words that just are mere platitudes to be a part of the social campaign and a public relations exercise?

Our real progress is not by Swacch Abhiyaan, or cleaning the Ganges, or by cleaning the streets of filth, it is the filth that lies in between us, our mindset that is so polluted, vilified that needs ‘ shuddhi karan! Don’t think, just because the stock market is zooming or the repo rate has been cut to boost the economy, that one can build more homes, have a better life style, if the women is battered, bruised and not given her worth, who are you going to enjoy the home with?

In fact, All Izz Not Well, admitting is the first step and then change will come. Till then the MNC’s manipulate deceive, dupe the girls into thinking the fair and lovely whiteness is the ticket to safety and freedom. My dear, you will still be killed, burnt, thrown acid at, aborted, raped, hung, murdered, just because the Creator made you a woman.

Being fair, rich or poor nothing saves you.