Venus is calling

 It’s tough being a woman , everyone wants us to have all these characteristics , rolled into one , imagine one hot body and the men have all these checklists for just one of us . We are currently in the 21st century , on the cusp of being obliterated just by a pandemic or by global warming which we still do not want to take seriously but we are still worried about whether the girl is fair or dark or is wheatish in colour . Men are more worried about getting married to virgins but still want to be in relationships to be cool . So the ones you marry are from Mars or the ones you are dating are from mars ? Venus has such a problem.

I have come to know over a period of time , when they meet they are worried more about whether you drink , the right answer being yes . They also ask questions like do you speak Punjabi ( for NRI girls ) , will you turn into a non vegetarian after marriage ?

Do you wear make up ,can you do housework ? You will have to wear clothes which Mama makes , or go to the tailor where she goes. It’s bizarre, men become proprietorial , patriarchal as if its their right just because they were born with the right set of genitalia . You can’t just work , because I say so , you can’t wear this because I say so .

How , when what happens to men when they are in a relationship or are planning to get married ? They want tall girls, why ? Because , she can clean the fans? Or this would help in betting taller babies !

How did we go back in time? Why are we not valuing women for their achievements ? They be educated , smart , beautiful , sassy , confident , pretty ! When a girl offends or talks her mind , she is outspoken, when she is upset , she is Pmsing even if she isn’t ! They want girls with an Emma Watson figure , a Kylie Jenner figure , who is good at deen (religion ) , who is a doctor too, can cook 800 different meals, with no ex boy friend.

And , they have all these requests from us , but what are you bringing to the table? Yes ,we live in a society where everything is skewed , differences are stark , and more than often the pressures to be a perfect housewife , mixed with a siren at night juggling a job and the kids , in laws and also not have any mood swings,  plus being a fat cash cow bringing in dowry . This is a rant inspired by increasing frustrations faced by young women when they face the marriage mart , its like as we are dealing with cattle , and you know funny enough the female species are preferred there because of the milk they give..

Irony is that we are hailed as the mother of all kings , the giver of life , sustainer , and the mother of all beings but to prove ourselves again and again and to be perfect because of a set of standards set by some one centuries ago or artificially boosted by the marketing conglomerates to enhance and sell products . I know this isn’t going to end , it will still be an ugly sore , and will carry on but today a mother sent her daughter to me , to study in the evening classes and her name was Beauty . She’s enrolled in the village government school . That’s the confidence I want for the future !