Saturday, June 30, 2018

Some days blue , and the colours

We all suffer from it , some days we all feel so blue and the day just gets bleaker by the second . In the last few weeks so much has been written about depression , mental health and suicide when nothing seems to be worth living for that it is better to just end one’s life. The most important and the biggest step is just admitting that one can be sad and its not essential to be happy and hunky dory , its ok to to not be happy , to not talk, to not smile . Some days to just exist to get up and function according to the norms set by society is so hard , to put up a face . In fact , the main problem lies in the expectations people have from us and that fact we are not everybody’s favourite cup of tea or coffee and that we are labelled to fit the stereotype that ‘they ‘ think is fit for us.
It is a predecided, predefined and mind you a pre conceived notion and image . The sad part is that we didn’t have this two decades ago , and. Now the pressures to perform , to be, to measure up to an image are making us trying to be what we not . It is easier to just fade away into oblivion.
I recently read a book that just highlighted time and again that we need to first learn or retune ourselves to love ourselves, no one else is going to come and do it , they all would just gladly put you down . You’d ask who the ‘they ‘ is , it can be any from your family , your siblings,colleagues, family , the subtle let down , the behaviour patterns to make you feel guilty that you are not worthy or don’t measure up.
It’s perfectly ok to be mediocre , to not be happy , to be second best or even be last and to be at the bottom . That is why we learnt numbers, and we learnt the values . Maybe this is where all the maths we all did in school boils down to. It took me a lot of years to understand and more importantly accept that I am not going to be loved by all , its ok to be liked and even if tolerated and hated ; it still was an emotion. And , this is not a pity write up , so that I get the ooh and aah and the shoulder to cry upon.
The book that I read made me come to ten points ( I love lists ) someone out there will analyse this to be some Freudian bent of my mind but at this point of time these points work.
1) Formulate , visualise in our mind that you will succeed . Hold this picture tenaciously , don’t focus on the extra weight or the grey hair or the freckles or that fat tyre that refuses to go away .Never permit the picture to fade away, always picture the rainbow , success. Just keep that happy picture of success , positivity in your mind. It’s all a mind game .
2)Whenever you have a negative, bleak thought like a dementor engulfing you and the grey clouds sucking out all the happiness out of you , focus on one positive thought and wipe the negative away like a duster cleaning the blackboard.
3) Do not keep on harping about the negative. Yes, its negative, don’t give it power, don’t make it bigger, don’t feed the Medusa.
4) And the one that I think is the most relevant , don’t be awestruck by others . You are YOU , do not copy them, they are not you and you are not them. The biggest problem is the hyper extension, over visualisation of everything where we want what is projected in front of us all the time , the bag , the belt, the car , the jewels , the better pout, the selfie , the best holiday picture, the name dropping of the brand that has been to define us .
5) Ten times a day , repeat these words - If Babaji be for US , then who can be against US ? Repeat Now, stop doing everything , don’t forward this , don’t share , don’t post just repeat SLOWLY and confidently . Friends are everywhere , so I have this one in Lahore and one in Singapore and they have different religions from me , so her Allah , and her Christ and my Babaji all say that when I am there for you , why do you waver? We all are dust and we shall return to dust so why do we waver form our faith and question Him? He shall forever be behind me and within me .
6)Get help , there is no shame ,someone out there studied and excelled in helping out the vagaries of the mind . This bleakness, sadness , spiralling despair can all be sorted, treated. Self knowledge is the beginning.
7) Ten times a day practise the following affirmation , and repeat out loud just like when we were little and learnt the nursery rhymes. Just stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself, this is difficult at first to look at oneself and to meet the eye. Say , I can do all the things , through Babaji which strengthened me . It seems silly at first , but just speaking these out loud , made me focus , positive and the beginning of a fuzzy glow started within.
8) We always undervalue ourselves or we inflate ourselves, no balance I think. Make a true estimate of yourself , your traits ,your outreach and then add ten percent to this. Develop self respect and not be a egotistical pompous ass . Do not be Harry’s uncle or cousin .
9) Put yourself in God’s hands and surrrende. No matter how much you fight , and deny the existence there does exist a higher matter than us that is the balance of life . I always say - I am in your hands , and then as we talked about visualise that you are receiving the power you need. Feel that God is within you. This I have come to believe and have learnt is the consciousness that resides in us. It just needs to be rekindled , reawakened as it all lies within us. This life force helps us.
10) Remind yourself that God is within you , and nothing can defeat you .

A lot of us are going to dismiss this as there is no tangible proof that God exists but rather than argue that He is or He isn’t there , why not for once go with the flow and believe He is and He is within us and change one’s reaction at first and then the mental attitude and accept the will.

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