The Be kind Series

Be in the Moment,

Now is all there is . Charlie Mackesy

Man is an interesting creature . We create so many castles in the air and situations in the mind ,believing and creating sandcastles , psyching ourselves to believe what will happen ,and what will not , not knowing what will happen, completely missing the present moment . It’s like missing the moment worrying about what will happen in the future .

None of us live the moment. Indian Aunty’s , mommies , even the ones across the border or anywhere in the world ( this isn’t a limited to being a Punjab affliction ) worry , contemplate , ruminate over the future that will be or worry and think over the times that have passed.

It is a national pastime, we will worry about the moment that has elapsed and spoil and ruin what we had . Why do we do this ? What is this helplessness that we will worry about what we cant do or what has been that we miss the second. In fact even as I write I have missed this moment and have already gone to the next . 

The mind is the most powerful weapon , it will make us believe anything , and we succumb to it .everything is in the mind and it’s how we deal with it . Anxiety , tension , stress, depression , these are the key words that are a part of our conversation ,every day we hear how these words have ruined lives, people, and homes. The multiple manifold effects are here for us to see . 

A friend of mine was worried about not being able to complete her chores because she had started late and as result of her OCD , she was a complete wreck . And you know she was beating herself over it because she hadn’t finished her work . 

It’s not in her hands , you will say what a silly goose she is ? Our mind plays tricks and makes us think that because we haven’t finished the work on time we are less than others or we haven’t made it to the invisible bar that has been set . 

No one set the bar . No one set the finishing line .No one will hate or love you less or give you a medal or beat you up or not for not completing a task that you had given yourself in the first place. Go easy , be kind to ourselves, no Martians are coming , we’ve had all that could go wrong in the world happening to us right now . Last night , I even had the dementors visiting outside the window. 

One can even start working half an hour earlier and finish the chores.thats what I told her and it worked . At moments of despair , we just need someone to help or say a kind word and what usually happens is that we get scolded, insulted and ridiculed which intensifies self doubt and a feeling of inferiority sets and we start getting lost in the moments .. 

And, as always I’ve started rambling on losing the plot ad the moment and the key points that I was writing about .Live the moment , seize it and grasp it as its the only one we have , the rest are lost and the future we have never seen .