Dear Ms Manners

Dear Ms. Manners and the Saanu ki matron of the Holier than thou Indian Society,

Some days I love you, and also respect the traditional values that you have given me and inculcated in us and the unwritten code and unspoken invisible lines that we have to follow being bhartiya naris, but pardon the French haven’t you take it a bit too far this time?

The regression by a bunch of so called politicians who threatened a young girl with rape if she didn’t take her stance back. Why is the final frontier for all Indian men rape, to demean, to kill one’s spirit sexually and physically?  This is the easiest, most cowardly way of silencing us. Gurmehar kaur for whatever reasons stood up, took a stand, put up a placard and she is allowed that, as it is every Sham, Sunder and Surinder who voices his opinion in the university. These places are the bedrocks of civilization and this is from where revolutions, the next generation thinkers, artistes, businessmen and leaders are made, and the shame is that we try to silence the voice by threatening physical rape. How and where were they (boys) when we were getting bharitya marayada lectures? How do they skip them?

I think its because the boys were given less baths as they would have caught a cold and the accumulation of earwax. Its plain and simple, they have been molly coddled all their lives and then these puny little boys who are bullies grow up to be men who think bullying and using physical sexual force is the answer to silencing a woman. It happens everywhere in all our walks of lives.

In my village, last week a young girl got married with lots of fan fare, the entire community pitched in and there was genuine unaffected camaraderie and joy over the marriage. In our village, as in the case of every small Indian village, the entire population pitches in with helping out from the tents, to the tables to the rice and you guessed it right, potatoes! She went to her husbands house who blatantly informed her of the fact that he was living with someone else, and then intimidated her sexually, defiled her and paraded her naked and made video clips. Mentally broken, physically bruised, spirit broken, defiled, and sexually abused this young girl came back to be paraded through a system that needs physical proof and makes you go through the pain again and then more.

I just want to know, what makes the mind be so depraved that it will kill the spirit of another human being to just prove his superiority? Where is the swacch, where is the ucchta, where is the advancement or is it just limited to the Internet speed?

How is success measured? Why are the minds not developing?

Madam, how is that everything is in the domain of the woman? Her izzat, her reputation, everything is measured by her, from the samosas she serves that decides her marriage prospects, to the chai she serves, to the words she speaks.

Imagine, guys if samosas decided your marriage prospects. Please put yourself in my shoes, where the ability to make a round chapatti, and the knack to serve dishes, wash clothes, and to have a clean house is a judge of ones, never mind the brain that is kicking inside and oh I forgot to look like the next billboard model albeit wrapped up!

She is a young girl who voiced her opinion, we all are allowed that, that’s the way the seed of freedom was planted and took fruit, and yes women actively took part and no one threatened them with rape. So why now?

If Aamir Khan can proudly do his bit and proclaim Gurdeeep Singh and daughters, you all can proudly defend her and not be the biggest shittiest coward and threaten to rape.

What is your answer to role reversal? I might say, karma does go round and comeuppance does happen.

Yours,

A Confused Human who happens to be a woman .