Dear Punjab,
There comes a time, when some times we have brilliant
movies that move and shake our psyche and our mindset. Pink is one of them, its
set closer home, in Delhi and could actually mirror any small or large city in Punjab.
An influential young man and his cronies are having a good time, and invite a
bunch of girls for dinner and the fact that they are drinking and wearing
western outfits makes them available to sex.
The movie raises brilliant questions and asks that
just because one is wearing a skirt, or is from the Northeast they are
available for sex?
Where is it written or unwritten in the manual code of
Manu that this means that they would go all the way?
Why do our men think that if the girl is laughing is
smiling and she is drinking with them it means her morals are missing? Does it
not hold true for men? Why are men allowed to get away with smiling, laughing
and drinking and their morals are intact while a woman is leading and tempting
them to commit a sin?
Isn’t it interesting that it is women who tempt them
by wearing clothes, laughing, touching while talking and even sharing an
alcoholic drink? Why are men not taught when they are growing up to respect a
woman’s choice and her answer?
There is a line where Amitabh (kudos to him, love his
bi-polar layer acting who sets a manual code for girls) says we should teach
our boys and save them to save the girls. He says, no in itself is a complete
sentence. No explanation needed nor should be given.
Why is that the time, the length of the skirt and the
fact that they are roaming outside the car can slow down and approach the girl?
And, the hard hitting embarrassing yet truthful
dialogs all hit home. Some, people at the theatre kept on saying (in spite of
watching the movie) till what level should the girls be taught? What should be
the level of education? I am wondering whether we should be gau mata or should
we be the embodiment of Shakti /Kali/ Durga as shown by the scriptures?
Why do we threaten? Women are liked and acceptable as
long as we are in the boundaries made to suit man.
By the way, this is not a feminist rant nor is it a
jhola wearing bra- burning stand, it is just a reflection of our times, where a
woman is still questioned and frowned if she reaches the grand old senile age
of 30, that how come she is not married? She must have had broken engagements
or something must be wrong in her kundli! Or the age-old stigma she must be
dark and not fair and lovely!
How I wish this movie is shown to everyone; a done is
made to realize that a woman has a right to say No, and even so a wife.
Till we in totality do not treat our women, girls with
respect due to them , we cannot be a developed nation. Do not get bogged down
by outer clothing , or lay down a moral policing code and for heaven’s do not
shame yourself by thinking the northeast girls are easier.
She is not a complex arithmetical code that she is
easy or tough . And, the hackneyed arguments of the Indian male so need to
change ! The Bhartiya nari changed and is changing, let her soar and fly !
Yours ,
A happy , impressed viewer .
Ps: woman viewer .
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